Occasional essays — on attachment, repair, intimacy, and the slow art of staying. Roughly one a month.
When couples come to me, the fight is rarely about the dishes. It's about whether you can be counted on — and whether I matter enough to be counted on for.
"When couples come to me, the fight is rarely about the dishes."
Your attachment style is a starting point, not a sentence. On the limits of self-diagnosis and the freedom of being seen by another person.
6 min read →
Long love isn't built on grand reconciliations. It's built on a thousand tiny returns — the daily, unspectacular work of coming back.
5 min read →
Every long relationship is at least two relationships. On the quiet, necessary work of marrying who your partner has become.
7 min read →
Your nervous system reaches conclusions about safety before your mind does. A short primer on somatic intelligence in love.
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Anger in a relationship is almost always a door. It's loud because something behind it has been quiet too long.
6 min read →
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