Phase one
Weeks 1–3
01
Listening
We map what's actually here. The story, the patterns, the moments that keep replaying. No pressure to fix anything yet — we're learning the terrain.
My work draws from Imago, IFS, attachment theory, and somatic practice — but it lives or dies on something simpler: the willingness, on both sides, to be real.
Most patterns in love are decades old. We don't sprint past them. We sit at the edge of them long enough to actually see what they're protecting.
Your nervous system reaches conclusions before your mind catches up. We learn to read that signal — what tightens, what softens, what wants to run.
In couples work, there is rarely a villain. There are two protective strategies in a loop. The work is to unwind the loop, gently.
Scripts and techniques are useful, but they collapse the moment things get real. We build the capacity to be honest first. The skills come after.
I have no model of what your love should look like. The work is to help you find your own shape — and the courage to live inside it.
"These aren't rules. They're how I stay honest with the people who trust me with the inside of their love."
— TsahaiEvery relationship moves at its own pace. This is a typical rhythm, not a guarantee. Some clients stay for a season. Some stay for years.
Phase one
Weeks 1–3
01
We map what's actually here. The story, the patterns, the moments that keep replaying. No pressure to fix anything yet — we're learning the terrain.
Phase two
Weeks 4–10
02
We start to interrupt the loops. New conversations. New experiments. Old reactions met with curiosity instead of force. This is the slow, real work.
Phase three
Weeks 11+
03
What you've practiced begins to hold under pressure. We turn toward what you want now — the relationship, the life, the way of loving that's becoming possible.
This is not couples therapy. I am not a licensed clinician, and if what you need is clinical care — for trauma, addiction, or a mental health crisis — I'll help you find a therapist who can meet you there.
This is also not a quick fix. I don't sell scripts, five-step frameworks, or "the three things every couple needs to know." Those exist. They sell well. They rarely change anything.
What I offer is slow, careful, often beautiful work — for people who are willing to look at themselves and their love with real honesty, and to keep showing up after the first hard conversation.
Three pathways into the work — individual, couples, and ongoing deeper practice.
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